In this video I would like to explore a fascinating word with you.
I'm going to call this authenticity.
Have you any idea of what authenticity is.
Perhaps you do.
Perhaps you don't.
Have you got any idea of what authenticity isn't.
Because sometimes in order to get a better understanding of what something is it can sometimes be useful
to consider what something isn't.
So if I was to consider and ponder over what an authenticity is.
I would be looking at well what intensity is in falseness.
It's not plastic.
It's not a facade.
It's not on real.
So that's what for me authenticity isn't.
So if I was to then answer the question what is authenticity.
I would suggest it's transparency is congruent.
It's real honest is genuine.
This is honesty it's sincerity it's transparent this is integrity for me.
Authenticity is completely intertwined with our character and whether we are willing to choose and exercise
our freedom to be true to who we actually are.
Because it's one thing exploring the core identity coaching model and getting this picture of who we
are.
Some people may say yeah that's nice that's who I am.
There's one thing.
Knowing who you are and it's something else.
Being who you are whether life coach you can help people know who they are and you can tell them who
they are and you can tell them the great from tarsa thing you can tell them to go and practice our formations
and a mirror if you want but if your clients don't fundamentally believe the stuff then it doesn't matter
how much positive thinking they do beliefs are far more powerful than thoughts.
This is one of the problems with powerful thinking.
So the purpose of this course is to really help you develop more accurate thinking about the difference
between accurate thinking and positive thinking.
Positive thinking is kind of like wishful thinking where we're just thinking hoping the best scana harp
at some point in the future mystically magically accurate thinking is about us taking responsibility
for the part that we play in the process.
Some people very naively just sit back and hope that whole life to just work.
Miraculously Boerewors are going to all pain people are going to bend over backwards to combat tasks
and all these sorts of things which is lace thinking is wishful thinking but it's not practical and
it's generally not going to happen.
Authenticity is firmly reby and true to who I am.
No I'm able to do this.
You have noticed by now.
If you're still watchin there more conventional life kortu guru.
I'm not fluffy and not feel nice the purpose of this course isn't to make you feel happy or make you
feel better.
The course the purpose of this course is to help you become better.
Help you become an effective life coach if you're serious about going down this road and the reason
that I am not holding anything back here is because if you take even just one insight something that
you've taken from this course and share it with someone else then I've left behind a legacy in you.
You don't complete my legacy but you play a part to know where I have come to understand something that
I've then communicated and shared in a way that made sense to you which means that I've played a part
in moving the world forward through you.
And this is how the world does move forward as a human race we're all completely interconnected in more
ways than most people could possibly even imagine.
What blocks success is when people try to be someone they're not.
No authenticity can sometimes interconnect and link in with significance.
Some people will sacrifice authenticity to be seen as significant.
No.
In your mind's eye there's a pretty good chance you already have a picture of someone who you know will
this is true wealth.
Are you going to see how that also doesn't serve anyone.
If you think about it when someone is is driven more by proving their significance than just simply
being themselves being authentic then what they are holding back from other people or from the world
is their core value.
The core value is who they are at the core.
No we've already looked at this.
F What if your clients we would know they have the ability to be loving and caring and giving and all
these sorts of things.
If someone's trying to be significant then they're not going to be loving or caring or giving or generous
they're just simply trying to prove themselves.
So trying to be significance or prove to other people who were significant we are will come at the cost
of our authenticity and if we're not being authentic then no one's ever going to experience or find
the value in us anyway so it's quite a contradictory pursuit pursuing significance.
You see significance is a funny word and I've kind of mentioned this briefly.
I'm going to unpack this a slightly more detail no.
Only way that as a life coach anyone is ever going to see a significant is if you're fundamentally helping
them to move for words.
Make progress in life and exercise their freedom in ways they haven't previously.
But so the only way that you are going to be able to do this is through gaffing giving another word
that not real on the board.
Sharing and giving and sharing are are two different values.
Some people get confused and assume that giving and sharing are the same thing but they're not right.
Because if I had a cream cake I could give it to you which would mean that I no longer have it.
So I've given you my cream cake and if you then eat that cream cake then I can have it the same way.
If you were to come to me and see cane the great life coach in the world I would like to buy two words
off your Thame for a personal breakthrough session.
Then you would give me some of your money in exchange I would give you some of my time.
You can then go away and make more money.
But I can go away and make more time.
So what I'm saying is if I give you my time then you cannot give me time back.
There are things that we get and when we give some people some things giving is is letting go off.
We're sharing as the best of this course.
I'm not giving you my time but I am sharing the lessons that I've learned along the way with you as
openly and as authentically.
And as openly as physically possible so I'm doing my very very best to share with you everything that
I half know whether you like this course or whether you don't is is for you to determine.
I am doing the very best and not trying to be a life coach and not trying to get it right for you and
not trying to be a guru.
I'm doing my best to be as honest as physically possible.
No.
If you have ever studied any or P you've possibly possibly aware of.
You know reading people's eyes.
You know when you read people's eyes to discern when people were being honest or dishonest they use
this know police detectives use this in fact attached to this video.
I'm going to attach a link to a really cool YouTube clip where Samuel L. Jackson would demonstrate exactly
what I mean by what I'm talking about here.
One of these all forms called the negotiator.
Right.
Just watch that after you finish this clip and you'll see exactly what I mean.
You see when someone is being authentic you can tell when someone's been on a stop when they're working
stuff out because their eyes kind of go up as a Lukan to construct cause visual construct visually construct
a sentence.
They know what they want to say but they're kind of constructing it inside of their mind and carefully
working out how to see what they want to see in the most articulate way as possible to communicate the
truth of what they want to communicate in a way that's going to hopefully make sense to their intended
audience.
No I didn't script that.
I just visually constructed it and made it up.
And this is how I choose to teach.
No it's not going to be everyone's preferred teaching style or method of choice but it's just Maine.
Right.
Which means that as I'm committed to a lifetime of authenticity in my life coaching and teaching and
sharing these with you know I share these things with you because at some point in the future there's
nothing stopping you from creating your own online courses like this.
If you apply this stuff you seem already come across one or two people were in fact a handful of people
have tried to duplicate my teaching of hard.
Some people ask me for scripts the right one person got in touch who was a Harrison or development so-called
instructor I shall name no names and this person in question says Kane yes I'd really be interested
in reading your scripts just to help me get a better understanding of what you're teaching.
When I responded he seemed to take insult in there so I said that our scripts don't have any scripts.
Sometimes I'll mumble my words sometimes I'll say things that I don't mean what I'm hoping this is going
to be okay with you because I'm just being as honest ours and as authentic as what a physically can
be.
And if you think about it I can't think of any one throughout the ages who has made a significant name
for themselves or has reached the door he hates a fame or stardom through imitating anyone else.
No.
Yesterday a show or four yesterday when I was filming but in the last section of the course I shared
a story with you by my wife current.
She was comparing herself to Katy Perry and someone else in relation to her singing No.
Karen if she'd wanted to she could have committed all of reference to trying to be like those people.
But even if she got really good at being those people she would just be an authentic version of them.
She wouldn't be being who she actually was.
No the end of this video.
What I am going to touch is a video clip of Karen singing one of the songs that she sang that's kind
of one of my most favourite if you like it's the end of the clip attached to the video once so you can
see it for yourself and you make a decision whether Curran should just be who she is and continue expressing
herself vocally as creatively as what she's able to or whether she should try to be like someone else
who's already made it.
And this is actually one of the greatest dilemmas that people have in life because this also connects
with s freedom security kind of drum because authenticity and freedom go hand in hand.
I exercise my free will and choose to be myself with complete disregard to where there are other people
like me loathe me hate me embrace me reject me hate me despise me it doesn't matter because I'm fundamentally
secure in who I am.
I understand that there's no one else in this world who could do anything to me or who can take anything
away from who I am because I'm fundamentally secured who I am.
I will not look to you for approval validation or any sense of security.
Security is within which means that I no longer need anything from you or from clients that will be
the approval I don't need money.
I don't need acceptance I don't need to be liked which means I can just be me on so many levels I can
guarantee you how completely liberating there says because others I know have no limitations in my life
I live quite a limited free life no limited by things that I have no control over but no limits in relation
to how it is that I me every single would I'm fully committed to expressing and communicating as they
articulate and as honestly as what I'm physically able to I appreciate that a lot.
A horrific communicator.
I am an honest and authentic communicator nonetheless.
And this is what I.
I'm going to encourage you to become through your life coaching not to be what you perceive are significant
or successful life coach would be.
But to become an authentic life coach just be yourself because the closing thought for this video.
I would like to leave you wealth is that the greatest resk that we can take in life is actually just
being our true authentic selves.
The reason that I've structured this course in the way in which our heart is to get the foundations
first and the insight second because if we can get the foundations down and know through the last section
you're even able to see who it is that you are at the core.
Whether I like you way that I don't isn't going to change.
You are aware that your future clients like you or dislike you agree with you or otherwise.
Well that's not evident to you or take anything away from who you are either.
Which therefore means that what reason could you possibly have for not taking the greatest risk you
could possibly take in life and just simply leave the securities in the comfort zone behind exercise
your freedom and be your true Fantic self because it's only through being your true authentic self that
you're going to be able to give people the greatest gift nobody could receive in life which is you.
I am not saying that in a fluffy sense.
I'm saying that in the sense that you're the expert if you are lying if you're the only person that's
worked a lifetime in your shoes and who you're going to be the only person in their life who knows what
it is to be authentic.
Hence the reason they're coming to you for life coaching nobody else in the world has taught them this.
Up until now.
So if you were to exercise your freedom just be yourself and demonstrate how to live offensively.
Through taking this risk exercising their freedom.
And if they then in turn embrace your teaching and exercise it then in turn they're able to progress
in at least one area of their life as a direct result of this.
And guess what.
They have just come to see you as being significant and it's not through what you said or or what you
didn't see or what you done or that information that you gave them.
It was through you lead by example and just being yourself you taught them through you're leading by
example.
Okay just to be yourself and this is one of the greatest in say So what are the greatest lessons you
can teach anyone in life.
This isn't a lesson that you can teach someone through articulating some really cleverly constructed
sentences.
It can only be demonstrated through living the life by example.
Authenticity is security.
Freedom is is the choice that we need to make.
Do we play it safe or do we be the kind of person that we think other people would like the most or
are we or do we just not give a rat's ass and just commit to living a life of authenticity.
You know they are just being who we are.
No that there's always going to be haters there's always going to be people with a disapproving dislike
so let's not worry about them.
Let's not speak to them.
They can bugger off go to hell and go on hiatus from elsewhere.
How about you moving forward for the rest of your life coaching and damarys and practices.
Commit to court showing and teaching and serving those who are looking for the same things that you
were looking for in life who aren't going to judge who are looking for ways they can progress exercise
their freedom take that risk and just be true to who they are too.
Because if you lead by example then they will follow and you've just made some friends for life.
So authenticity rant over.
I know you're most likely definitely going to be able to see that this is a complex topic one that can't
possibly be scripted.
Whilst some people say that there's only six core human values unseen That's garbage.
There's not only sex.
There are hundreds of them and they're all completely interconnected and the intertwined and they influence
every single decision that we make in life.
I'm not going to be able to do this topic justice but over the next few venues I'm going to give it
a very best anyway so this makes sense.
I look forward to seeing it again in the next clip where we're gonna start looking at this word here
piece.
Look forward to seeing you in a few minutes.
Reasons.